Make Money Online – With Honesty

What’s Holding You Back?

Posted on 10. Feb, 2009 by Holly in Success, Transformation

Bills, lack of time, your problems, your frustrations, confusion, lack of resources? All of those things are deterrents, but they are not what is holding you back.

If you are trying to change your life, then it’s time to face those things that you are allowing to deter you, refocus and make the decision to achieve your goals. Everyone has heard the saying, “You reap what you sow.”  Well, the saying is true – on all levels of our lives. If you are struggling to make money online or to achieve some of your goals, you may want to clear you conscience of all these distractions. The truth is – you are the one who needs to make the changes necessary to live the life you want to have.

Everybody has problems. Two people can be experiencing the same problem, and react with completely different thoughts, feelings and attitudes. Pretend these two people have both been in a relationship with a person for a few months, and their relationships were seemingly quite serious. They both find out that their relationship was based on a lie as the other person was actually married. They will both feel hurt and angry – but for how long? Let’s say one person handles it with anger, pain, grief and depression that lasts for many months, maybe years. The other person who experienced the same thing was also outraged with anger and sadness, but after going through the pain, the person let it go. The person felt grateful to have found out at that time, rather than dig deeper into a meaningless relationship.

Daily Problems and their Significance

It’s important to not over-emphasize the significance of our daily problems in life. Some problems we have in life are extremely serious, but many of the other problems are not. It is not the size of the problem, but the person who is dealing with it – that matters. Don’t let those problems beat you, you can handle them and they will go away eventually. If you have a problem that you can do nothing about, then try to let it go. For me personally, I will give it to God and that’s all I can do.

“You reap what you sow,” applies to business and Internet Marketing because you get what you put into it. There really are no get rich quick schemes. There are a few things you can do here and there that might increase the income with a jolt – but that is not an everyday occurrence with IM. So, with Internet Marketing, if you stay focused and put your efforts into what you are doing, day in and day out – you will see RESULTS. You may need to wake up an hour earlier – at 5 AM before the world wakes up. You may need to go to sleep earlier or not go out because you want to spend some time on your projects. I think it is important also to understand that it doesn’t just apply to the work you put in, but to your thoughts, feelings and actions. If you have a bitter attitude, with thoughts in correlation to that, then you may end up treating people in the wrong manner or rubbing people the wrong way (even online). Thoughts often turn into attitudes & behaviors which turn into actions. So, if you care about others and try to help them out when you can, it will be reciprocated to you someday as well.

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The Baggage We Carry Around

Often people are walking around with guilt from one thing or another. About 8 months ago I started to think about things that I had done to people in my past – to hurt them (not intentionally, but I did). They were people who I had known and cared about, but I pushed them away and closed them out of my life. Honestly, as a woman it is not easy to befriend a man without it being awkward at one point or another. I didn’t want a relationship with the people I pushed away, but was their friend and at times I allowed myself to become stressed out with the friendship. Sometimes people are “energy drainers” and I sometimes felt that about those friends.

My coping mechanism was to push them away. In the end, in the back of my mind or heart I carried that with me. I thought about it one day and wrote to each person and apologized with complete honesty of how I felt. The people were kind in the responses back to my apologies – but more than anything, I set myself free. Don’t allow yourself to walk around with weird guilty feelings about things such as that.

Set Yourself Free

Let it go – tell it like it is to the people who are a part of it. Then you will be free from it and they will get the truth that they deserve. If you have anything like that you are holding onto, try to write a list of those things or those people and events – and do what you need to do to take care of it and let it go. You will feel so much better!

Once you feel the personal freedom to be who you are again, try to avoid getting yourself in such situations again. Awkward unsaid and unsettled situations happen often because people have a thing called “approval addiction.” For example, your friend asks you to go out but you say you are not up to it. The friend begs you and out of pressure you give in. You end up resenting the person when you are tired and grouchy the next day. Why? You didn’t stand your ground and do what YOU wanted to do. So, try to learn how to say “No” more. It can be difficult if you try to help people and you end up running out of time for your life and yourself. I am learning this lesson as of now as well.

After you’ve rid yourself of the past problems, take a look at what you feel is holding you back from succeeding in your ventures or goals now. Face those obstacles, then remove them from your roadway to success. Create a clear path to your goal.

Kindness & Contacts

When I was 14-years-old, my best friend Emily Waller told me that her father gave her an important piece of life advice. She told me simply, it’s in your “contacts.” I didn’t know what she was talking about at first but she went on to tell me that for every single person I meet in my entire life, I should save their contact details. This girl was not an Internet Marketer or a maniac spammer – don’t worry (although if she did save every contact her whole life she could be a great marketer) – she said it was what her father told her to be one of the most important things to remember in life. I think there is a lot of truth in that – it is very important to make contacts and “meet” people online and offline. If you’re an Internet Marketer it’s important to do a lot of networking with others who are into the same thing. Our honest work from home forum is a great place to network, as well as Twitter. In life it’s important to stay social and be around people who are uplifting and help you to grow as a person. We’re all connected in this world anyway.

Make Your Decision

Last thing you need to do is make your life DECISION or GOAL-focus on it, know everything about it, be determined to achieve whatever it is you want with it, know the steps needed to take, and make it happen! You are the Solution to your problems! It may take time, just don’t ever give up.

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